Slowly the haze started to clear as I learned to not feel responsible for the captious comments of others. I completely agree with you this article is great! There were times that this person said unkind things to me. I doubted myself and really believed that I was less valuable than those around me. As for local forums that involve one-on-one conversations, I met my significant other in my quest for friendship, along with so many other people who share my interests and value spending time with me. Search, discover and share your favorite Nobody Loves Me GIFs. It isn't specifically about romantic love. I look myself in the mirror and cry and encourage myself that I’ll be fine. You cannot resolve anything with someone who refuses to talk to you. And yes, I still struggle with the inner demon mentioned in this article. Empaths: What Does it Mean to Be an Empath? I give and receive love by thinking and talking deeply about our hearts, spirits, and souls. So here goes. Sure I’ll fb friend my coworker. I truly do not understand. I have borderline personality disorder and the voice has completely taken over. I hope you are doing ok and don’t feel so sad, thank you so much for letting me know i am not alone how ever wrote that big thing up there.It is so much like how i feel but alittle wore. God created you , for a great purpose. You need help. I believe if you are intelligent it makes people feel inferior and uncomfortable. There were people in my life I have helped, I have been listening to their problems, I was trying to be supportive, I have feed them with jokes and funny stories and interesting facts and they were laughing and they were interested in what I say, and they looked like they have a good time around me but still, they just won’t ever text me, never invite me anywhere, never initiate anything, like they forgot about my existence at the moment a came out of their sight. They found me funny and witty and interesting, and we all did things together. Ever since I was five I have talked to myself in deep conversation because talking to others was difficult. Sometimes it’s not a just a critical voice in our heads. I feel alone even when I’m surrounded by people…. But there is another wrinkle in my life’s story that has the potential of putting the lie on the concept that we are not alone in the feeling that we are alone. No matter what your inner critic is telling you or using to reinforce its arguments that you’re different or unworthy, you can find ways to access the strength to calmly quiet this destructive coaching and be persistent in moving toward your goals. One day, when I was experiencing personal issues of my own, I asked this friend: Do you like to be abused? It certainly does feel like I live in a vacuum except for when I’m at work. Is this all not but to beg the question: By whom should we seek to be liked? Why is nobody else interested in C.S. I’m not sure if I like them, let alone the other way round. My world is shrinking as my children age and want less and less to do with me. We’re so quick to indulge its claims that we mistake them for our real point of view. Lucie, I could have written this myself. I have friends and I help them all and I take care of them. it’s tough but we’re all in this together. ?? I’ve always had a positive attitude towards making friends and meeting people. Either they weren’t my type or vice versa. God blessed. Vocalize or write down a reply to your critical inner voice. My whole life I felt that there was something seriously wrong with me that everybody knew about but know one talks about. I know I could be worth having around if someone would give me the chance. When other people say or do these things, it reaffirms that others hate me as I always knew they did and so I hate myself. reading all these posts firstly makes me very sad because i feel each of your pain as i feel that way too. Even my kids have seen some of it like, They still as happy telling a pregnant teen how such a great Mommy she going to be while they’re part blame me & my kids lives are a mess by my father reporting me when before he reported me while one of my kids was visiting him, was sexually battered in her sleep supposedly by a younger male cousin & she woke up & when I reported it after I found out, police reported it in our state, that other boy nor his parents nor my father was reported to children & family because they told me it was criminal & they didn’t deal with criminal only harm of child under parentsor guardian care, & police said nothing could be done due to my child & supposedly witnesses but police case could stay open for 3 years & without children & family interview the other people or reporting it to that state so the others could have a case opened on them & investigated, our state closed it out & I feel I can’t go against them in fear of retaliation on me & my kids that I could get my kids taken, they already lied in the other report plus I don’t have the money or resources to fight them. Respectful but distant unless someone *really* clicks. Amen Mike! I have never had therapy and I personally don’t do drugs of any kind. You know what’s worse? I feel like if I disappeared no one would miss me. Oh I do relate to you , we try but would like to be heard too . It didn’t help that being molested has screwed up sex for me. It would be more helpful to know how to be OK with loneliness when really one has so little control over this, over other people. then they are complaining about me to someone else not to my face am I really that bad. It is that essence in us that automatically attaches to someone who is compatible. I don’t like it but it happens to everyone I’m sure. I have just discovered that my own mother has been spreading the vilest rumors about me.. I’m not too sure what because people are actually afraid to tell me. I relate so much to this.. My biggest concern is that one day my own children will hate me too , Thats exactly how I feel like if everyone around me is annoyed or bothered by me that by the end of the day I feel like the most loneliest person ever . analizing every comment or gesture that people made and turning it into a negative. I don’t think I’m a picky person for friends, but just give me somone who is funny and nice THATS ALL I WANT I want to stop playing video games all day and mindless tv I feel like I’m waistjng MY time away and every day I’ll think “when I get a boyfriend life will be exiting” or “when I drive I’ll finally be not so lonley” but when THOSE things happen I’m worried I’ll never be not lonley…. Sarah, I see where you are coming from. If we start to see the world as threatening or not accepting of us, we are much more likely to act in ways that push away or alienate others. Thomas Aquinas, a Catholic priest in the 13th century, used it to mean the love of humankind. We may even achieve the outcome our critical inner voice warned us about, feeling isolated or finding it difficult to connect with others. However getting to be rlly good friends is even harder because like so many other ppl here, I always have to be the first to msg others to get a reply or sometimes even none. No, everybody wanted me to do this one by myself, and I wanted to do it by myself. I always think people dislike me or are bored to talk to me and would much rather prefer talking to someone else..if someone does like talking to me extensively, I find it annoying, or think they’re taking advantage of my listening skills. It hurts because nobody wants to feel alone. The researches of loneliness found that us lonely people, tend to act in way that “put off” others because of our own negative thoughts and biases. In her book Yes, Please comedian Amy Poehler described this inner enemy as “a demon voice.” She wrote, “This very patient and determined demon shows up in your bedroom one day and refuses to leave. Some of my white friends excluded me because they knew my parents were black. Not worth anyone’s time. Take a step back and consider modern behaviour in adults today: A spoiled generation who care little about everything from environmental destruction to the well-being of their own children. I have tried every kind of literature and outogussestion but I feel nothing is helping me how I feel. One thing reading these comments tells me is though we may feel alone we really are not alone in our feelings. It has been very helpful. Sure I pray and read the Bible but I strongly believe he’ll never heal my pain of loneliness. ALL of you. After this epiphany I’m finally starting to feel okay for the first time ever. Also, read Kent Keith’s poem: Anyway. Share the best GIFs now >>> I’ve received talking therapy counselling, but to me, that’s all it seems to be. Maybe she’s mad at you. I am a lonely person and I don’t have family members or relatives. : ). I’m sure I’m better for all the knowledge and somehow an annoying intellectual is more acceptable than annoying regular folks. I hate that! It’s also possible that since you seem to be a “hard worker” maybe be you are playing it too hard to meet without YOU realizing it, which can be a turn off to most. Someone who will listen to you without judgement. What is not equal is the status that one love has above the other love. Im just a big fat ugly person, my friend told me to ask someone out, but I got rejected, because Im ugly. Why I can’t feel the love from my friends or family. Use it every day for the rest of your life. I understand all too well and just writing this is exhausting, if anyone gets that. These are known as Toxic people! Or how my second wife wants me to “be with” her, except that consists of me watching her play on her phone. It hurts deeply! I can’t even word this to make my point because I tried meds for depression that left me a mess I found that when I was younger even though I was knowledgeable I asked opinions and listened that made me popular. Sometimes people can’t see our light but it doesn’t mean that we don’t shine. When in public, it’s like I’m invisible, or people can tell there’s something wrong with me. I could very much relate with what you said about the people that supposedly love you. I cannot beg. You have stated my life perfectly. I enjoy my work and hobbies and I like to study and learn. But I also say no, too, so I do set boundaries. My father was the physical one while she would just use mental abuse. I am reaching out to my family as I feel so unloved, but they can’t be bothered to call me on their own initiative, which is what I asked for. Maybe it was but I just wanted to spend an hour with them. I’m so grounded by negative thoughts and I feel that I have no control over it. Everyone is looking at you. With Betty Hutton, Ralph Meeker, Robert Keith, Adele Jergens. I felt as an outcast all my life since I turned six years old. I didn’t realize there were other people like me! like me kinda some people hates me and some people loves me my grandpa said before he died some people is goign to hate on you and some people wont to STAND UP TO YOURSELF AND DONT LISTEN TO THEM HATER AND WALK AWAY LIKE YOU PROUD OF YOURSELF!! But I am a human like everyone else, and although introverted, I do enjoy the company of others at times. Yes but there’s some of us that just don’t have no remedy, no matter how many articles like this we read we are a lost cause. People say ‘ oh your so strong etc ‘ if only they knew , I am same , I need people interested in me too . My issue is with grown children. Gilly befriends her and she feels happy again. Those friendships have lasted a long time whereas others who I’ve found without these tools have fallen away from my life. One thing I do know.. Always. I feel hurt but smile. The problems multiply when they shouldn’t have even started. Why is this happening? Even if initially you wind up feeling embarrassed or not quite yourself when you act against your voice, you should remember to practice self-compassion. Well these same people grew up to become the adults of today. Waltraud Grossmann from Stony Plain, Alberta, Canada on February 07, 2017: Well researched and insight through personal experiences no doubt. Clear, concise and so very accurate. Even if one is open, there are characteristics that repel love. I feel as though I’m not good enough or pretty enough for anyone to love. I withdrew. I see people in bad relationships when they should be millionaires with the sweetest husband or wife. Once we lose confidence or our sense of self, we’ll no longer act like ourselves. I know most of the people who are going to read this comment are adults, but still, I need to pour out my feelings somewhere. We simply feel it. You are loved. Because love requires for there to be a connection at core level, a certain amount of openness and similarity is required. I suffer from loneliness as well but feel that I am getting better over the years. Hello I always feel lonely when my gf goes out and enjoy her self or she is either on her phone and I’m sat there bored and she’s never off it. It didn’t work. I stayed because I wanted to see if he ever would run out of himself. We enter this world alone.. and we leave it alone. Since I started school, I’ve walked around the playground by myself. I have just accepted that I am not everyones “cup of tea”. We have to take on our critical inner voice. While I was there, I had to take a pill to go to sleep. Trying to use ‘memory tricks’ to overcome this, doesn’t work because I then have to remember something else, in order to remember what I actually want to. Whether its old “friends”, family, or coworkers it doesn’t work out I also experienced a trauma that completely altered my perception of people and reality. I wanted the American family type but like I said I’m still married to their dad & were still as a family but not near the way I ever wanted or imagined. Best of luck finding the diamonds in the rough . People create their image of the “average lonely person” and stories like yours aren’t heard that often. My own mother told me, I should have died, instead of my sister. I have friends okay but I feel so left out, trust issues makes me push them away. It seems like I should. Im only noticed when someone tries to use me which is sad depressing. And then I’ve noticed on some of my group Hangouts chats when I’m sick nobody asks, “Hey, where’s Alina? 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